There’s no racism anymore

writhhten by ARP editor Tami Winfrey Harris

…that’s what my stepson said to me last week when I told him about my new gig at Anti-Racist Parent: “There’s no racism anymore.” I was dumbfounded. Has he not heard his dad and I discussing the race bias in the 2008 presidential race? Did he not spend most of his life in Chicago (one of the most segregated cities I have ever seen) where young black men face profiling by citizens, shopkeepers and police officers? Is he not one of just a few children of color in his school…nuff said?

I offered my son a few examples of ways that racism most definitely does exist, including the fact that one of his teachers, though she grades him fairly, seems to treat him differently due to race. “Well, yeah, there’s that stuff,” he retorted. “But not real racism.”

Now, I don’t want my stepchildren or my nieces and nephews to grow up believing that their race is a barrier to anything.  I don’t want the children in my life to be hypersensitive about race or uncomfortable in situations where they are the minority. But to believe that racism doesn’t exist?

I blame myself a little, or my generation (X), rather. I once discussed this in a blog post:

My generation has to bear some of the blame for the situation we are in. We black GenXers, born roughly 1965 to 1975, are the heirs of the civil rights movement. We thought our parents and grandparents risked their lives and reputations, faced hoses and dogs, shouldered indignities and limitations, so we wouldn’t have to. And for the most part, we don’t have to. We are free to go to prestigious law schools that our parents would never have been allowed into. We can frequent restaurants that would have forbidden service to our grandparents. We can freely exercise our right to vote; hell, some folks are talking about NOT voting in the November election. You know you are free when you can toss away a privilege your ancestors would have died for, that some in fact did die for.

But that’s the point isn’t it. One of my dad’s favorite admonishments to my siblings and I is: “That’s the problem with you all. You think you’re already free.” Now, my dad is not trying to limit my sister, brother and I. He and my mom raised us to believe that we could achieve anything we wanted to. What he is trying to remind us is that while we are enjoying the considerable fruits of his labor, and the labor of others who were involved in civil rights, we shouldn’t falsely believe the battle is won and be lulled into complacency.

And my generation has been far too complacent.

We have failed to take the reins of the civil rights movement, leaving it in the hands of men like Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton, and organizations like the NAACP that have failed to adequately address new challenges faced by the black community. We have allowed the old voices to be the only voices heard.

We have failed to fight for our history to be accepted as American history, so that slavery and egregious racism and their continued affect on black Americans is not forgotten.

We have failed to speak up about overt and covert racism and its impact on the lives of African Americans, and we have too often let both “isms” be seen as anomalies in a largely-colorblind world.

I think my generation has been too busy reaping the benefits of the anti-racist work of our parents and grandparents to fight our own battles.

On the other hand, is my situation with my stepson, a matter of differing generational experiences, sort of like the differences between second and third-wave feminists that have been highlighted by the presidential race? Many women like me have scratched their heads as women of our mothers’ generation have railed against sexism in the media and political sphere. We realize that gender bias most definitely exists, but we don’t exactly agree on where and what it is. On “The Today Show,” when Geraldine Ferraro pointed to Barack Obama brushing his shoulders off as an example of sexism against Hillary Clinton, fellow guest and third-waver Rachel Maddow explained that many younger women viewed the gesture as simply a pop culture reference harking to a popular Jay-Z song.

And anyone who has visited the black blogosphere knows that many folks of my generation, while sincerely grateful for the efforts of the civil rights movement of our elders, also believe that many of the previous generation’s views and tactics are no longer relevant in today’s world.

Of course, in both these cases, the disagreement is over the degree of the “ism” and how best to combat it, not whether it exists at all.

I worry about my stepson thinking racism doesn’t exist. He is a teenager and it won’t be long before he faces the world as an adult. I worry that his attitude may put him in harm’s way.  But I could be wrong. I assume his beliefs are based on his experiences and his reality. I have to honor that. Maybe, though I can’t see it now, my son will raise his children in a post-racial world.

What do you say to a teenager who thinks racism is a thing of the past?

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Comments

  1. servetus wrote:

    He may have to experience some, unfortunately. I am a Generation Xer, too, and I never believed there was any need for feminism–in my high school setting, in college, even to some extent in grad school. Then I got my first fulltime position in my desired career, and suddenly sexism was everywhere. I had to experience it to believe it…

  2. J wrote:

    It’s almost something you have to look for, or experience to know of it. Racism/sexism/ageism/ism’s have gotten subtle enough that there are plenty of people denying it.

    You could try to engage him in conversation about why he believes racism doesn’t exist. Perhaps he means hate-crimes and segregation. You could show him the newspaper- there was an article about a Missippi HS prom that had it’s first year this year a non-segregated prom. That might be ‘far away’ and extreme but at least its an example.

    Other than that, I’m sad to say that he will encounter it first hand soon enough.

    You wouldn’t believe the people I encounter that think a rape is justified if she falls naked into a man’s lap.

    Keep up the discussion.

  3. Liza wrote:

    Great post, Tami.

    I just got back from speaking at a conference where I was certainly one of the few brown people there, and, to me, one of the few people who was aware of racism. In one of my conference sessions, I was presenting a power point slide that listed “feelings/actions often experienced by people of color in predominantly white institutions”, which included all the *basics* like racism, tokenism, prejudice, labeling, stereotyping … you get the picture (nothing was really that advanced). Yet, a 20-something, white, male participant challenged me and said, “Those are generalizations, and it’s not right to say that happens everywhere. For example, I KNOW that people of color don’t experience that where I work. Racism doesn’t exist where I work.”

    (sigh)

    While I was processing that workshop with my very skinny, tall, dark-dark-dark-Black-skinned, male friend over dinner in the downtown area, a white woman yelled over to our table and said, “Oh my gosh!! You look JUST like that Barack (BAA-raaach) Obama guy!” To which, I thought was a compliment given that I have a huge crush on Senator Obama…. but, then she yells, “I hope you’re not voting for that BAA-raaach guy just because you look like him!!”

    I am totally serious… that junk is just too crazy to make up… yes, racism still exists….

    To your question of “how will I teach my teenager about it” is to talk more about the subtle forms. Even on the college campus where I work, we rarely see the overt racism that we used to — no one is really calling anyone “names”, no one is really using politically offensive terms, etc. But, it’s the subtle stuff — like not getting called on in class, or not being given opportunities that others are given, or professors always calling on you in class to talk about the Black experience, or feeling like you have to be “better than..” others. Those are the types of racism that I see working with college students, and not so much of the physically hateful things. Sometimes it’s talking more about the subtle - and very destructive - racism.

  4. BCmomtobe wrote:

    I can attest to servetus’ statement on feminism. I spent almost 9 years in the Navy Reserve, and it was an eye opener. It seemed like every misogynist crawled out from under their rocks from all over the country and congregated in my vicinity. Of course most of the people I met were really neat people as well.

    I have heard a great deal of the “There’s no racism anymore”, and my all time ‘favourite’, “There’s no racism in Canada.” Many people think if it’s not, as Tami said, the egregious, overt racism, it’s not racism.

    Much of the racism prevalent today is the more subtle, harder to name racism, that many find easy to dismiss as something else. For example, rude service could well be racially motivated, or that person could well hate absolutely everyone. This is the kind of thing we have to watch out for, and work on. Along with that is racial profiling, and any other prejudging based on race that happens.

  5. Jennifer wrote:

    There’s something very hopeful about that though… if our children think racism is a thing of the past, is this not an indication of the direction in which they are heading…? The beginning anyway.. i have mixed feelings, but my initial reaction was a quiet hooray! that he is having such an experience in life so far that racism does not register to him… but I know there’s more road to travel before we rest…

  6. BCmomtobe wrote:

    I see what Liza is saying, about the subtle yet pervasive racism, the kind that is often dismissed by those who know better. One type of racism I have seen, usually from people who claim to be non-racist, drives me nuts. It’s that phony, condescending, smarmy manner some people use when dealing with someone of another colour. It’s like their inner dialogue is saying ‘ Oh there’s a person of X culture, race etc. I’d better get in their face and show them I’m not racist.’ They don’t realize they are being racist by treating that person differently because of race, even in an attempt to be positive. It is embarrassing.

  7. Psychobabbler wrote:

    “Well, yeah, there’s that stuff,” he retorted. “But not real racism.”

    I might start with asking him what he thinks real racism is.

  8. Yvie Mar wrote:

    Times are tough indeed! Good luck!
    Yvie
    http://tangerineslullaby.eachday.com

  9. Trev wrote:

    To think that that racism isn’t present anymore is ignorant of the facts. Children are being taught to be so politically correct, that often reality is lost (or at least blurred). The reality is that people are different, but appreciating these differences is where we should be concentrating not ignoring or pretending that they don’t exist.

    Love,
    Trev
    http://elliots.eachday.com

  10. Yvette wrote:

    I do not want to make assumptions about your stepson or his situation, so I will couch my comment in more general terms. Sometimes when someone expresses something like “there is no racism anymore,” what this is a function of is their own privilege. With non-POC, the privilege may be race-based. But with people of color, this may be part of class privilege.

    Middle class Black teens may be particularly experiencing this kind of class privilege. They are protected, while in their families, by their parents’ class privilege as well as a kind of cohort-based privilege of their own. For example, unlike their parents, they likely are not experiencing a racial context marked by a lot of “firsts” and by exclusion. They have never known a world without the existence of prominent Black sports figures, actors, musicians, whole musical genres, etc.

    I realize you may have felt some distress at your stepson’s assertion. One strategy for dealing with this is to move beyond a teaching mode (about racism, Black history, etc.) to an advocacy mode. If some of us are fortunate enough to benefit from class privilege even though we are people of color, then we need to find ways to fight for social justice for those who look like us but who do not have these benefits.

  11. Lea wrote:

    Well, I think teens and younger kids do see and experience things differently. But, one only has to watch the news to see that racism is alive and well.
    Look at the shooting incident of Sean Bell in New York City. The Jena 6 who were jailed after a school yard fight.
    And what about Fox News and the recent “Baby Mama” comment in reference to Michelle Obama?

  12. BCmomtobe wrote:

    My last post should have said …dismissed by those who SHOULD know better. Arggh!

  13. Zora wrote:

    I think Psychobabbler’s idea about asking what he thinks racism is would be a good place to start. I see with my students (usually 17-20 yrs old, predominantly white) that most think “racism” = “KKK” or something equally stark. They see racism only in extreme behaviors, like lynching, or legally-enforced segregation, not in the more subtle, pervasive behaviours that the predominant racism of today.

    I find it also very useful to talk about the difference between individual racism and systemic racism, because that systemic racism - the racism ingrained in so much of our social fabric - tends to be of the more subtle variety, but is also much more wide-reaching in its effects, and for some reason this seems to be easier for initially resistant folks to understand. (These forms are linked, obviously, but it can be very useful to break them up this way.)

    And maybe it does take personal experience to really “get it,” but it also helps to hear other peoples’ stories of how they’ve experienced racism. If you move into the advocacy mode that Yvette suggests, I think you open up a lot of avenues for hearing about others’ experiences of racism today.

  14. lbw wrote:

    I chased a couple of teenage kids to their friend’s house yesterday after they made some disparaging comments about Asians as I was standing in my mother’s driveway. They ran as soon as I turned around, so I knew they were not hard core criminals because I am not an imposing figure. I felt the need to talk to them because it’s not ok for them to make people feel unsafe in their own homes. So with the help of some friendly kids in the park, I found them hanging out in the driveway of their friend’s house. The woman whose house they were hiding out in was very co-operative when I explained that I needed to speak to them about some racist remarks that they made and made it clear that I wanted some dialogue.
    They were very defensive and began with “What did I say?” I told them we both knew what they said and I was here to find out why they said it. I explained how it made me feel and in the end one of them sheepishly said, “I was bored.” I got an apology out of them, but I was a bit shaken. I told my husband that I want to move to a more culturally diverse area, but he pointed out that you get people like this everywhere. And unless we “upgrade” we would end up dealing with hooligans of a different description and that these kids are just small time trouble makers from out of the area anyway.
    But I’ve been thinking about where I want my son to grow up and the more I think about it, the less I want it to be here. We’re just starting out at the moment and have financial constraints, but I think we are both going to have to work a lot harder so we can move to an area where there are more people like us. We are really at odds with the culture of our community. I keep connecting with people on-line who live in other states.

  15. Fat Lady wrote:

    I was born in 1963 and as a teenager I had the same ideas as your stepson. I believed that racism was a thing of the past.

    I look back on that time and wonder how I could have thought that. I guess, as Yvette mentions above, it was an instance of class privilege. As a middle class Black teen living in a predominantly white neighborhood - I experienced a level of acceptance that made me think things were better everywhere.

    Not that I didn’t see and experience racism. But it was always something that was exhibited by adults. So I grew up thinking that previous generations were hanging onto racist thoughts, but that my generation was exempt from all that.

    I managed to hold onto that belief until a a college boyfriend threw the N-word at me. It was the first time I’d experienced blatant racism from someone my age. It opened my eyes to all the subtler forms of it that had been encircling me my whole life.

    I think, sometimes, racism is something that has to be experienced first hand to really be believed. Unfortunately, I think it’s likely that your stepson might have to get a real dose of it before he understands how alive and well it is. I think the best you can do as a parent is instill him enough confidence and strength of character that it won’t knock him for a loop when he’s faced with hit.

  16. lunanoire wrote:

    Yes,
    It’s so important to foster dialogue to encourage empathy. Part of the problems within some POC communitites, relate to a class-based disconnect and unfortunately, callousness at times.

  17. Christy wrote:

    I sometimes worry that my sister things there is no racism anymore– and I especially worry about how that will affect her two Filipino children. My sister is one of those naive people who believes that we are all the same (which totally pisses me off because, obviously, we are not). I worry that she is not arming them enough to be able to say “I am great the way I am.”

    My partner and I make a point to tell the kids how great they are, how beautiful they are, and to celebrate the differences between them and my other, very white, niece. My nephew who is 6 started to notice physical differences and comment on them when he was 3 or 4. I thought my sister and brother-in-law handled that well– acknowledging that my nephew and his dad have brown eyes and my sister has blue eyes, he and his dad have black hair, my sister has brown hair, etc. I just worry that they will think there is no racism and then won’t know how to handle it when it comes at them.

  18. Phillipe wrote:

    I’m glad that someone injected some class consciousness into the discussion, I think it adds to the complexity of the issue at hand. I agree that the issue with your step son is how racism is being defined. People have so many different definitions of it that we are often not even talking about the same thing when we try to discuss it. I’ve been thinking recently of trying to talk more about racial inequality (which is easier to see) and the psychology of racism, such as internalized racial inferiority. Both of these things persist inspite of the progress that has been made regarding reducing systemic racial discrimination. Neither racial inequality, nor internalized racial inferiority require overt racist attitudes, behaviors or policies to persist. This is what is not understood by many people.

  19. gm wrote:

    I love how you broke it down, Yvette.

  20. Yvette wrote:

    Thanks, gm!

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